Are we healing?
I sit writing this blog post today and realize it’s been one of the most challenging years of my life.
I have struggled with mental health since I was a child.
Exposed to things no child should have to experience.
Between the ages of seven and eleven, I was sexually abused by two men. This forever changed my life. Most recent reports and studies show that abuse can have long-term effects on the brain, even causing permanent damage to cells and memories and impacting how we react to stimuli.
I can speak from personal experience: My heart, trust, and ability to love and be loved forever will be in a distant memory of a girl who had the whole world ahead of her and aimlessly struggled to find her footing and threw herself into more trauma because this is what she knew.
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Conditioned to be abused, abandoned, and neglected is the tune of a girl who a parent never loved. I was only discarded and left to suffer alone for years. To learn more about my story, please check out my books.
It’s amazing how our society has been so removed from its humanity.
Yet this is only an assumption because if you release the fear, conditioning, and sabotage mindset, you attract suitable environments, people, and experiences.
I have struggled with balance for so long, and still to this day. It’s a learning curve in this healing process.
I was checking my emails today and found a moving, thought-provoking article by one of my mentors, Tony Robbins. Linked In is a great way to stay connected in the entrepreneurial world. As I opened the email and read it, I felt more robust with each line. “Have I been asking the wrong questions?” Sometimes, we think we need always to be the savior. Especially when it comes to everyone else in our life.
Authentic leadership comes from finding the source of the problem, identifying the disturbances, and “focusing” "r efforts. We may be able to redirect our limiting beliefs by removing the fallacies. As leaders, we can impact others, and it is essential to come from a place of love, understanding, and compassion.
Let's start:
What are your truths?
The truth is I let my depression, suicidal thoughts, and actions almost take my life more times than I can count.
I fought my potential with efforts of pleasing people, which resulted in feeling empty.
Throughout my life, there have been many circumstances where I let my ego get the best of me, and I made decisions that impacted my mental and emotional state.
I have found so much clarity in programs like NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming). Working and training under Kain Ramsay brought alot of insights and truths into how I heal and help my clients.
The wise mind model is a part of the teachings of NLP and resonates deeply with me as I am highly intuitive. Most of those I have worked with struggle with one extremity of the brain or the other. For example, you have your analytical mind (thoughts, logic, reason) and your emotional mind ( feelings, emotions, and subconscious). As we identify which side we lean deeper into, we can understand where to find a balance that leads to a wise mind: your intuition, deep sense of knowing, and even balanced energy of the brain emo’s emotional and analytic regions.
As we learn how to better connect with our emotions and thoughts, we can find tools and supportive modalities to help with the brain clutter and over-sensitivity.
With our current state of the world, I know most are asking the questions
Will we be forced to continue to cry and fall deeper into a state of feeling like no matter the work, effort, and time?
Will it never be enough?
What is going to happen?
Sometimes, we need to disconnect to reconnect to realign with our most authentic focus, intention, and belief. Some supportive tools that have helped me along my pathway are physical movements like yoga, exercise, and breathing practices.
The best advice is to go slow and explore different modalities and practices that help you find the path most beneficial to your health, wealth, and abundance.
Be inspirational! Be insightful and be brave!